Sex affects everyone in different ways, but at the end of the day it still affects you. A lot of times both girls and guys think that they are able to have sex with multiple partners and walk away from the experience without adding additional baggage to their life. Here are some of the baggages you might be needing to let go of in your life!
Emotional Baggage: Emotional baggage includes feelings of being hurt, depression, starting to have stronger feelings for this person, etc. The problem with emotional baggage is it has very long term effects! It can cause you to become extremely clingy or very insensitive to people you date in the future because you have been hurt. Guys normally have a tough time dealing with being hurt by a girl and becoming insensitive.
Mental Baggage: Mental baggage refers to you beginning to question yourself. You may start wondering things like, why didn’t they call afterwards? Is there something wrong with me? Are people looking at me differently because they told everyone? Do they like me? Are they going to look at me differently because I had sex with them? Why did I do it? All these questions are taking your focus off of things you should be thinking about, like having fun with your friends or preparing for your future.
Comparative Baggage: Comparative baggage is just that, the impulse to compare everyone. He did this that way, or she used to do things like this. You compare the way they talk, walk, act around your friends and family, everything! This makes it very hard to move on because you are constantly failing to accept what is in front of you because you are always thinking about where you came from.
Instant Love: When you have sex with people you can get a false sense of feelings for someone or start to think you are in love when you are not. If you did not already love that person or have feelings for them but all of a sudden you are probably just clouded by all the sex and bad judgement. Do not let yourself even fall into this trap!
Here are a couple quick questions you may want to ask yourself.
Do you constantly think about this person? Yes/ No
Do you begin to find yourself accepting things you normally wouldn’t because you want to keep having sex with or dating this person? Yes/ No
Is the fact that this person does not return your calls or hasn’t yet called you make you feel like less of a person? Yes/ No
Do you start to compare people you are now dating to the people you have had sex with in the past? Yes/ No
Are you all of a sudden “in love” with this person? Yes/ No
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