“Love, Sex, & Real Dating”
What’s good, Fella’s? It’s ya manz Gammage again. As you already know, this month we have Valentine’s Day or as some call it, “The Love” month. This is the time that everyone is running around spending money that they don’t necessarily have on items they or the next individual, doesn’t necessarily need.
What I want to talk to you fellas about this month touches on Love, Sex, and Real Dating. Love! What is Love? By society’s definition, Love is described as “any object of warm affection or devotion.” Another definition says its, “a strong positive emotion of regard and affection.” Both of these definitions lean towards affection. Well, let’s look at that word. Society says affection is, “a positive feeling or liking.” Now looking at these three definitions, can you see why it’s so easy for us to say we love something when really we have nothing more than a positive warm liking towards it. SMH (snickerin’ in my head), I love wheat bread. I love my white tee’s hot out the dryer. I even love lasagna, but I’m pretty sure the love for my mom is totally different than any of those. So Fellas, please don’t use this word loosely “JUST BECAUSE.”
Knowing the real definition of Love revolves around God. God is Love. Since this is a fact, not just a warm, positive feeling, then the bar is set at Him, His standards, and His principles.
Sex! What is Sex? Wait, do we even need to get deep on this subject? I think not. Sex is just that, it is a physical act between two individuals that Love (based on God’s principles) each other, or at least should be. Sex has been glorified and publicized by movies, videos, music, and has now been totally disregarded as something passionate and sacred, but diminished to a momentary, recreational hobby. Sex isn’t needed to make a relationship work. Fellas remember this year will be different than any other. We’ve started a new way of doing things, a new way of thinking, and a totally new approach to our lives. And sex without love (based on God’s Principles), no matter what month or holiday, isn’t included.
Finally, Real Dating! Fellas, this is your department. “Clean up on aisle 4.” You’ve heard the call and now it’s your opportunity to answer and clean up the mess so many other brothers have made. Look, I’m not shocked that many of you are dating but as anything else, if you’re going to do it, please do it the right way. I can’t stress enough how we mess up in this area because we approach dating in the way Usher said we should. Or we try to duplicate what 50, T.I., or Drake did in that video. Being a gentleman always catches the flicker from the brightest star. Doing things like calling after a certain time, getting out of the car and walking around to open the door for her (whether on a date of just going to the store) is what makes you a gentleman. None of these things make you lame. Those who don’t do them haven’t learned the true value of the one he’s with. This separates the boys from the men. Real men, not toy soldiers, take care of valuable, precious items in their lives. One flower each day of the month of February would mean more than a dozen in one day. A simple card the day before, the day of, and after Valentine’s Day holds more memories than something you’ll be broke from doing the next few weeks. Set the bar high and rise to the occasion. You can do it!
That’s it from me this month. I’m off to spoil my “WIFE”. LOL, Love Yall. Deuces!
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