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Teens are from Mars, Parents are from Venus

Do you think you and your parents are from two entirely different planets? Truth is, you are... kind of. You were both born on earth, but it's safe to say that your perceptions, ideas, and opinions reside on two totally different planets. With this in mind, it is important to remember that "obeying your parents" is the first commandment that God gives with a promise. What does this mean? It means that disagreeing with your parents does not constitute doing your "own thing" on your own terms. Since you speak two different languages on two different planets, just try and stay away from some commonly misused phrases:

"I don't care"- How often do you truly not care what your parents are talking about? It doesn't matter. Using the words "I don't care" in any situation tells your parent(s) that you are not willing to be mature in the situation and talk it out like an "adult.” If you want to keep being treated like a kid, say "I don't care" in the midst of a discussion. If you want to be treated like a person with a logical opinion, remain open to talk about topics even if you feel uncomfortable, or the topic is not very high on your "priority" list.

"Whatever"- This is a pretty popular word. Ever since the days of the movie Clueless, it may seem trendy to use the word "whatever" when your parents address you. In actuality, "Whatever" sends out alert signals that can cause your parents to become impatient with you. If you feel like you want to say "whatever", please just refrain from saying anything at all.

"You don't understand"- Seriously... this  is probably the most overused phrase in the history of the world between parents and teens. The only way to avoid this phrase is to attempt to open the lines of communication between you and your parents and express yourself cool and collectively. The key is to not just try and open up lines of communication during times when it’s convenient for you, but instead focusing your efforts on a continuous line of communication. If you open up these lines of communication on an every day basis, you will eliminate any stress that may arise from trying to "get your parents to understand you" in times of debate.