The Power of Friendship Over Relationship
If you look up “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” in the dictionary, you should find the words temporary, limits, unrealistic expectations, and false light. Yes, you’ve heard a million reasons why you shouldn’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, but this is just a breakdown to explain the pluses and minuses so you can make your own decision. Take a look at these reasons to focus on friendship rather than relationship.
Temporary. Did you ever have a boyfriend or girlfriend for only two weeks? What about a friend? Most likely, you haven’t been friends with someone for only a week. On the contrary, it has become acceptable to go from girlfriend to girlfriend and boyfriend-to-boyfriend like they are simply objects, rather than humans attached to emotions and feelings. Would you want to change friends once a month? How could you trust that person or learn about them? You cant! This is what happens in a relationship. You rush into it and rush out of it so fast that you didn’t even get a chance to connect with the person and get to know them.
Limitation. When you make someone your boyfriend or girlfriend, you immediately begin placing limitations on yourself and that person puts limitations on you. “You can’t talk to any other guys” or “You can’t go out with your friends unless I’m there”. Who wants to be restricted to who they can and cannot talk to? Don’t you get enough guidance and instruction from you parents and older siblings? Why would you want to obey more rules from someone who is probably the same age as you? As yourself these questions and answer them honestly. Do you really want to be told that you can only walk with certain people to class? Do you want to be in a relationship with someone for a week? No? Well then, consider a friendship.
Expectation. Remember one thing: people will always put their right food (the best food) forward… it’s the left foot you have to watch out or. Normally, this “left” foot does not come till much later than the initial stages of the relationship. Relationships set unrealistic expectations for the other person. All of a sudden, it’s a bad thing if your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t answer your text within three minutes or gets off the phone with you to do homework. Friendships allow so much more realistic expectations, with less heartache and frustration.
Genuine. With family and friends, you are able to kick-back, relax, and be yourself! On the other hand, with a boyfriend or girlfriend, you are constantly trying to be better and more appealing than normal. Your outfit has to be perfect, your hair has to be perfect, and you can never be just you. This seems entirely too stressful to have to deal with on a daily basis.
Enjoy the power of friendship. The ability to be yourself, learn, and grow!
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