Ask yourself one question and answer honestly: Is social media and mobile messages
your main form of communication with your boyfriend and friends?
If your answer is yes, then you’ve fallen into what is called the social media
phenomenon. It’s a world where human interaction and verbal conversations are the
last thing on the list of communicating with someone. Here’s what your priority list may
look like when trying to contact a friend or boyfriend:
Ø Text the person’s cell phone
Ø Check if their logged to chat (AIM, iChat, etc)
Ø See if they updated their status on Facebook
Ø Text the person’s cell phone again
Ø Write the person an email
Ø Call the person
Do you notice anything wrong with this list? Is it possible that “calling the person” could
be the first option? No, not in today’s social media and mobile messaging world. Now,
social media controls your relationships, your mood, your self-esteem, and maybe even
your life. Words like “Like”, “Friend”, “wall post” and “tag” have become so familiar
and now your idea of a relationship may be merely the one established on Facebook
or another social media site. Take the following things into consideration when dealing
with social media and mobile messages. Hopefully, after looking at your list, you’ll
consider dialing your friend’s telephone number instead of trying to get a hold of them
on Facebook.
Not a Real Connection. Two studies out of the University of Arizona show that hoarding
friends on Facebook and Twitter won't eliminate loneliness if those relationships lack a
strong connection. The connection that must be made by conversations, not simply by
text jargin. If you’re one of hundred of friends on Facebook or even one of 20 people
someone texts on a regular basis, you become just a number when communicating with
the person. Talking on the phone shows time and effort has been given. You are also
able to get to know the person better when talking to them.
Fake? One big mistake is that it’s easy to confuse digital relationships for true
relationships. You can become so misguided by connecting with a guy you like online
that you begin to think these relationships are more intense, more committed and more
complete than they really are. It’s so easy to communicate with all these websites that
you may not even be able to figure out who’s really interested and who’s just bored.
All Messed Up. How many times have you texted someone something, and they got
mad at you because they interpreted it in a totally different way than you intended?
Well, that’s because words are meant to ALWAYS be spoken in a relationship. Yes, it’s
ok to utilize all types of communication, but try to speak your mind in order to be clearly
understood.
Is “Social” Media Really Social?
Ask yourself one question and answer honestly: Is social media and mobile messages
your main form of communication with your girlfriend and friends?
If your answer is yes, then you’ve fallen into what is called the social media
phenomenon. It’s a world where human interaction and verbal conversations are the
last thing on the list of communicating with someone. Here’s what your priority list may
look like when trying to contact a friend or girlfriend:
Ø Text the person’s cell phone
Ø Check if their logged to chat (AIM, iChat, etc)
Ø See if they updated their status on Facebook
Ø Text the person’s cell phone again
Ø Write the person an email
Ø Call the person
Do you notice anything wrong with this list? Is it possible that “calling the person” could
be the first option? No, not in today’s social media and mobile messaging world. Now,
social media controls your relationships, your mood, your self-esteem, and maybe even
your life. Words like “Like”, “Friend”, “wall post” and “tag” have become so familiar
and now your idea of a relationship may be merely the one established on Facebook
or another social media site. Take the following things into consideration when dealing
with social media and mobile messages. Hopefully, after looking at your list, you’ll
consider dialing your friend’s telephone number instead of trying to get a hold of them
on Facebook.
Not a Real Connection. Two studies out of the University of Arizona show that hoarding
friends on Facebook and Twitter won't eliminate loneliness if those relationships lack a
strong connection. The connection that must be made by conversations, not simply by
text jargin. If you’re one of hundred of friends on Facebook or even one of 20 people
someone texts on a regular basis, you become just a number when communicating with
the person. Talking on the phone shows time and effort has been given. You are also
able to get to know the person better when talking to them.
Fake? One big mistake is that it’s easy to confuse digital relationships for true
relationships. You can become so misguided by connecting with a girl you like online
that you begin to think these relationships are more intense, more committed and more
complete than they really are. It’s so easy to communicate with all these websites that
you may not even be able to figure out who’s really interested and who’s just bored.
All Messed Up. How many times have you texted someone something, and they got
mad at you because they interpreted it in a totally different way than you intended?
Well, that’s because words are meant to ALWAYS be spoken in a relationship. Yes, it’s
ok to utilize all types of communication, but try to speak your mind in order to be clearly
understood.
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